Episode 4: About independence and boundaries, with Elissa

Do you have challenges protecting your independence and creating boundaries? (Um hi, me too! 🙋‍♀️) 

In honor of 4th of July in the U.S., I’m kicking off this month with a solo episode about independence and boundaries. Moving forward every month of the podcast will have a theme, so this is our theme for the rest of July. In this episode I share some of my own struggles with creating clear boundaries, as well as my journey back to myself after a tough break-up. I also talk about one of my favorite ideas: honoring our boundaries as if they were the semi-permeable membrane of a cell. You’ll hear about “holding your own energy” as you access the world around you, what it means to be securely attached, and the Buddhist gates of speech. I’m sharing this information because I think it’s an incredibly important place to start in identifying our truth. It’s only once we are truly in touch with ourselves that we can you find the freedom to express and speak our truth.

Listen now… and for more information on the podcast and how to join the Speak Your Truth Membership Community, visit www.howtospeakyourtruth.com.

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Show notes:

Blog posts I wrote about my experience in Bali: Why I Came To Bali, I’ve had a revelation here in Bali

An explanation of the Buddhist Gates Of Speech: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/four-gates-of-speech-and-buddhist-relationship-advice_b_1339413

Here’s a nice overview of adult attachment theory: https://www.psychologyinaction.org/psychology-in-action-1/2018/5/1/adult-attachment-theory

And I highly recommend the book “Attached” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller.

Curious about the chakra system? I love “Wheels of Life” and “Eastern Body Western Mind” by Anodea Judith.

Info about Burning Man: https://burningman.org/

Info about Bhakti Fest: https://bhaktifest.com/


For more info about the podcast and how to join the Speak Your Truth Membership Community, visit www.howtospeakyourtruth.com.

As a member of the Speak Your Truth Membership Community, you get:

  • Enrollment in the How To Speak Your Truth online course,
  • Live online group sessions with Elissa twice a month where you can ask your questions and be inspired by others’ stories.
  • Exclusive behind the scenes footage of the podcast each week,
  • Astrological insight on the new and full moons,
  • And access to the membership forum where you can share your experiences and interact.

Learn more and sign up at www.howtospeakyourtruth.com.

You can find more info about Voice Body Connection and take the “What’s holding my voice back?” quiz at www.voicebodyconnection.com.

Production Credits:

Our Assistant Producer is Suzie Masser

Our Editor is Eilise Bonebright

Our Graphic Designer is Laura Sills

Our Photography is by Sophie Mathewson

Our Audio Consultant is Martin Carrillo of heardrum.org

And our theme song is “Waters of Body” by Strange Weather

Please note that Amazon links in the show notes are connected to the Voice Body Connection Associates account. All other partner links are acknowledged. Thank you for supporting the podcast!



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