Episode 34: About awareness, with Elissa

In the 1970’s, a man named Noel Burch was working at a company called Gordon Training International teaching something called “The Four Stages of Competence.” He created this innovative model to describe how humans learn new things, and over the years psychologists and many others have continued to share it. When I was first introduced to it a decade ago, it completely blew my mind. What I love about it most is that we learn that the first step to changing anything is awareness. How true this is… we cannot change anything about ourselves until we recognize it first. So in this solo episode kicking off our month about Awareness, I’ll talk you through what I call the Unconscious Competence model and share why it’s so important to have compassion for the things we notice about ourselves and others. Plus, just for kicks (and because it was relevant) I’ll share how to speak your truth about your menstrual cycle!


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Show Notes:   


  • 0:00 - 2:22 Intro to the awareness theme. 
  • 2:22 - 16:00 Reviewing the Speak Your Truth process.
  • 16:00 - 26:24 Unconscious Competence model and bridges to mastery
  • 26:52 - 30:50 Focusing on the awareness step of the bridges to mastery. 
  • 30:50 - 34:40 Speak Your Truth check-in.
  • 34:40 - 39:02 Addressing comments from the community.


Unconscious Competence Model:

A bit about Noel Burch and the Four Stages of Competence, as he taught it, in the 1970’s.

Information about Body Mind Centering, the somatic training program I’m certifying in.

Marshall Rosenberg’s book Nonviolent Communication.

Fitzmaurice Voicework, the first somatic voice practice I became certified in: www.fitzmauriceinstitute.org


For more info about the podcast and how to join the Speak Your Truth Membership Community, visit www.howtospeakyourtruth.com.

As a member of the Speak Your Truth Membership Community, you get:

  • Enrollment in the How To Speak Your Truth online course,
  • A monthly live online group coaching session with Elissa to practice using the “how to speak your truth” model,
  • A monthly interactive recording of the coming month’s solo podcast episode,
  • Weekday warm ups to practice embodiment and expression, 
  • Exclusive behind the scenes footage of the podcast each week,
  • Astrological insight on the new and full moons, 
  • And access to the membership forum where you can share your experiences and get feedback.

Learn more and sign up at www.howtospeakyourtruth.com.

You can find more info about Voice Body Connection and take the “What’s holding my voice back?” quiz at www.voicebodyconnection.com.

Production Credits:

Our Assistant Producer is Suzie Masser

Our Editor is Eilise Bonebright

Our Graphic Designer is Laura Sills

Our Photography is by Sophie Mathewson

Our Audio Consultant is Martin Carrillo of heardrum.org

And our theme song is “Waters of Body” by Strange Weather

Please note that Amazon links in the show notes are connected to the Voice Body Connection Associates account. All other partner links are acknowledged. Thank you for supporting the podcast! 


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