Episode 72: About cultivating self-love, with Ko Im

podcast Apr 29, 2021

Ko Im knows self-love. She knows it because she practices it. She knows it because she writes about it. And she knows it because she’s worked hard to cultivate it. 💗

In this episode, Ko shares how recent events affecting the AAPI community have led her to speak up and out - namely in an OpEd for Newsweek - and at the same time have required her to dig deeper than ever to access her own worthiness.

Self-love is a product of our own personal work, but it’s also a reflection of the communities we grow up in and surround ourselves with. No matter the amount of work involved, it’s worth it to cultivate self-love. Because as Ko reminds us, the world will be a better place when we all have a greater awareness of our innate worthiness. 😍

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Show Notes:   


  • 0:00 - Welcome Ko Im to the podcast.
  • 5:35 - Ko shares her history growing up on Guam, moving to Philadelphia for school, and working as a TV reporter before becoming a lifestyle writer and well-preneur.
  • 7:50 - Ko talks about her involvement in AAPI activism, and her article in Newsweek last month.
  • 11:29 - Ko shares her television reporter voice! Is that an authentic voice? Ko would say no. A discussion of code-switching. 
  • 16:19 - Ko answers what it means to her to have a voice and speak her truth.
  • 18:10 - Ko answers what worthiness means to her. Which is unique as an Asian-American woman.
  • 24:50 - Elissa shares about her struggle with understanding these questions in relationship to her Jewish identity. 
  • 26:45 - How do we navigate the paradox between “I am enough” and still needing to actively pursue anti-racism? How do we navigate privilege?
  • 32:30 - Elissa shares how she thinks we’re living in a very unique and special time on planet Earth.Co-dependence is and has been prevalent on our planet, but there is an opportunity to move to inter-dependence. Ko shares: “It takes a village” and also “A rising tide lifts all boats.”
  • 38:02 - Our Voice Body Connection process check-in. Elissa and Ko both feel floatiness in their head.
  • 42:16 - Ko shares what the world would look like if we were all operating with a sense of our innate worthiness. And how to get in touch.


Show Notes 

Want to get in touch with Ko? @konakafe on TikTok and Instagram, Ko Im TV on LinkedIn and Twitter, and the KonaKafe blog.

This is Ko’s March 2021 Opinion piece in Newsweek: I’m an Asian Woman, and I’m Not OK.

A discussion of code-switching from the Harvard Business Review.

This is the book Attached about human relationship patterns that we talked about.


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Production Credits:

Our Editor is Sean Brennan

Our Photographer and Graphic Designer is Laura Sills

Our Videographer is Miguel Garzón Martínez

And our theme song is “Waters of Body” by Strange Weather


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